It’s Tuesday morning, 7:22am to be exact. A text comes in from my Mom addressed to my brother and me:
“Please don’t try to get me a Mother’s Day present. Y’all do a lot for me all the time. Just put it out of your mind to think about.”
I’ll admit, my brain isn’t that sharp at 7:22 am in the morning. But let’s face it, there’s a lot to dissect in this one text.
The first thing is, what’s a Mother’s Day without a Mother’s Day present? It could be handmade or store bought, but either way, it’s still something – something to show your mom how much you love her.
But then there is the bit about putting it out of your head. I don’t know about you, but as soon as you tell me to put something out of my head, the opposite seems to happen. It becomes permanently tattooed to my brain. It’s not going anywhere.
My Mom’s birthday is January 3, and she’ll be the first to tell you it’s always come at the most inopportune of times.
Jan. 3 may come at the beginning of a new year, but it comes at the end of a long holiday season. By Jan. 3, the holiday hangover has hit everyone. People are sick of of everything. They are sick of gatherings. They are sick of food and sweets. Let’s face it, they are sick of people. After the holiday season, people need a holiday from their holidays.
The effort to pull off her birthday celebration has never been as good as it could be, sad to say. That amazing present idea you have for her? Yeah, that gets used at Christmas. Nine days later, you have to find another amazing birthday present. That’s a lot of amazing in a short period of time.
So one year, she decided she would move her birthday – to February 3. First of all, can you even do this? Apparently, you can. A precedent had already been set. Her mother, my grandmother, did just this. And nobody was going to tell my grandmother what to do.
But that didn’t work. How do we not acknowledge her birthday on her birthday. It’s a matter of essence – the birthday is the day.
Instead, we make it work. And maybe we get a little better each year.
But what do you get someone who has it all? Or better yet, can get what she wants, when she wants it? You give experiences. Because that’s what life’s all about – making memories through new and exciting experiences.
So that’s what my siblings decided to do.
January 3 may be during the holiday hangover period, but this year it was the beginning of the Patty Dungan ‘Go-See-Do’ Tour of 2017.
We’re not quite at Mother’s Day yet, but there’s already been a few stops along the way on the Tour.
We’ve been to a Charlotte Checkers game. We’ve had a custom scavenger hunt of Uptown Charlotte. Even dinner at Heritage Food and Drink, an up-and-coming farm to table restaurant in Waxhaw, has made the cut.
More tour dates to come. There’s plenty more things to go, see and do still in 2017. More memories will be made. Memories that she, nor any of us, will be able to put out of our heads.
And that’s suits us just fine.